Women Over 50 Put Toes in the Dating Pool Even When There’s Pee In It

Single life is looking better and better from the water’s edge

Lisa S. Gerard
5 min readFeb 21, 2022


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Dating is not easy regardless of age. However, what the hell happened during the last 30 years that I haven’t been involved?

I think I’m good at watching others date from my lounge chair, raft, or from the Snack Bar.

I am not sure what I was thinking.

Maybe the planets weren’t aligned and I went through a crazy time.

You know, the kind of crazy that makes you think you’re ready to date.

My inner voice said, do it! What do you have to lose? You’re young(ish), vibrant, full of life, and enjoy companionship.

So, I listened. What if it was a divine message from an angel whispering on my shoulder? I took the leap.

I soared like an eagle and I jumped from the high diving board!

And, as I cut through the water to come up to the surface, something was different. Very, very, different.

There was a distinct odor that could not be dismissed.

The pool waters of the past had been sullied.

Is that pee?

Shell shocked at what I found, instant confusion took over, and I started to run.

My Simple Guide to Get Past a First Date

  • Locker room talk
  • Picture requests
  • Unresolved Issues
  • Pee in the pool

Locker Room

I appreciate that you felt an instant connection. I may have, too. Somehow though, if you tapped into who I am, you wouldn’t make a huge leap into hard-core, slightly or grossly graphic, conversations.

I don’t care about your testicles.

Not yet, anyway, and I can say with assurance that I never will because I felt devalued by your rush to explain your manliness.

Can you think any less of me?



Lisa S. Gerard

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